Entering a sacred relationship is a commitment to show up and be with what ever shows up and not withdraw when things surface, that makes us uncomfortable and fearful. Of course love includes granting another the space and freedom to “sit with” and have alone-time to have a deeper look, but when this starts to become a pattern, then it indicates, that there is a failing commitment to solve things mutually as sacred partners on soul´s journey. Withdrawing from our partner, when he/she is reaching out, is a means of ego to “protect” itself and a mechanism that is extremely counter productive to what we actually need. Whereas when we grant our partner the gift of being seen in our vulnerability, in our confusion, our fear, we create a nurturing space for healing… a transparent space for things to be seen and illuminated. We grant each other permission to show our weaknesses and lacks without fear of being judged, but simply holding it, giving it space to be acknowledged and seen for what it is and so true healing can take place…. a healing space of peace, where we can feel safe and trust that our partner will embrace us and love us in all our facets beyond judgement.
Rejecting or being rejected when offering our partner love and support, when it is called for and most needed, may stear up old wounds of “distrust” and fear of abandonment in the other. It is rejecting the very purpose of the relationship, namely to grow and evolve togther individually and together by serving the other… by being there for the other as a caring mentor and loving friend. Being aware if and when ego is at play in one or both parties isn´t a problem, when this is recognised and accepted by both. It demands 100% honesty and self integrity 24/7. However when this is denied, the gap between the two will tend to grow, as there is no transparancy and authenticity to build a foundation of love on.
However when we devote ourself to “stay in” and together form a vortex of love where healing and clarity can arise, we fulfill the true purpose of sacred relationships and this is what future relationships will be build on and what will turn any relationship into something beautiful and sacred, something that will strenghten and deepen the sacred bond between souls and create divine balance between the divine feminine and masculine within both parties and between them as equal partners in service of each other and the Greater Whole. ~ Grace Solaris –www.graceelohim.com